Insensitive, selfish pig! Sorry, maybe not my place to say it but that's what I think and, being from Yorkshire, I've a habit of saying what I think (it's got me into so, SO much trouble over the years!). If you can't get support from those closest to you, who are meant to care for you, then maybe it's time for something drastic. Big hugs, Poppy. You're doing so well with this and he's only trying to undermine it because he's noticing you're doing well and doesn't like it.
11 Aug 17 by member: Phooka
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Tell him he's right - it's all about you - it's about time you put yourself first. He's all about himself - or else he'd have made a meal. Idle sod - sorry I'm a Lancastrian - we're as bad as Yorkshire folk. You see to your young first and then you should put yourself next. He's a big boy and can - well should be able to - look after himself. He's just jealous of how good you're looking.
11 Aug 17 by member: minitata
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You've lost 2 st 7.25 lbs = 35.25 lbs. You're an example to anyone who is disabled and wants to lose weight. Don't listen to him, or let him deflate you. Unless you're under about 4ft 10 inches you're not that overweight. I'm 5 ft 7 in and 74 kilos is nearly down to 'normal' on the NHS bmi chart - and normal on some others.
11 Aug 17 by member: minitata
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Oh Mini! I can hear you from here! Especially the second "And another thing..." post. 😂 You are, of course, spot on
11 Aug 17 by member: Phooka
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Thanks Phooka - unsupportive spouses are a bug bear of mine.
11 Aug 17 by member: minitata
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Kudos to you for saying that out loud -Rise aove like you normally do and try not to let his insensitivity get to you.
11 Aug 17 by member: Adpully
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Thanks friends.. you made me smile.. I lived in Yorkshire for a year, so am used to direct comments.😉
I guess this means he's noticed I've lost weight then😉
While he's drunk more beer and got fatter and started losing his hair ( he's 6 years older than me)
Thanks fir all the support.
I've had a nice bath and giving myself a pamper day.. got the face mask and moisturiser at the ready. New underwear is out fir delivery from Amazon.. always cheers a girl up😉
He wants me to comfort eat like I always used to, but im not that person anymore 😁
Crisps and cake do not make me happy 😊
I'm gonna post a photo that I took the day I bought my new top.. have lost a few more lbs since then.. just excuse the lack of makeup and frizzy hair 😊
11 Aug 17 by member: poppycom
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Any idea how to put pizza topping in my food diary?? Might just need to right this off as I have no idea how to estimate it 😊
11 Aug 17 by member: poppycom
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11 Aug 17 by member: poppycom
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If you smiled then our work is complete I've looked at your photos - you've come a long, long way and I can't see how he can fail to notice that. Some people spend their times in relationships undermining the other (not just men, either) and it's toxic, slowly (and sometimes not so slowly) poisoning both parties. You take care, Poppy x As for recording your pizza topping, you could estimate the amount of cheese, sauce, etc., or just let it go for the day. I suppose recording it as a guesstimate would be better since it will remind you that you were pushed to make a poor choice which is exactly what he wanted you to do
11 Aug 17 by member: Phooka
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Simple Poppy - just put pizza topping in the search 🙂
11 Aug 17 by member: Doobrie
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By the way, I'm horrified at the way your husband spoke to you. Quite honestly I'm wondering why you've stayed with him for 25 years. That's all I'm going to say on that. I'm glad you're having a nice pampering day and bought some new underwear. Congrats on the further loss of weight too!
11 Aug 17 by member: Doobrie
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Supporting all of the above comments! You have done so well, and what an amazing achievement and change! You should be nothing but proud. Keep being strong 💪🏼 and leave the haters to their own sad selves... 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👍🏼 🙋🙋🙋
11 Aug 17 by member: TorilJ
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Thanks all. You've put the smile back on my face 😁😁
And Doobrie and phooka, just deconstructed a leftover slice of pizza to weigh it. # determined!
It wasn't too bad at 15g carbs and 311 Cals as I avoided it he crusts and 2 slices of pizza base. Thanks fir your help 😘
11 Aug 17 by member: poppycom
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Supporting you!! 20 lbs is a big deal!!! I know what it feels like to be stressed like that!!! Hang in there, don't give up.....
11 Aug 17 by member: bowden850514
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LOL that is indeed #determined. See me? I'd have looked longingly at the left over pizza then, after a while agonising, eaten it. And wished there were more. In fact, there probably wouldn't have been any leftover pizza to deconstruct and weigh so I can record it at all. I know some people don't get on with pizza (my OH included) but I adore it 🍕🍕🍕🍕😂😂
11 Aug 17 by member: Phooka
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Forget the pizza it was a blip tbh after all the negativity you had to endure I think you did well to just have a few slides of pizza!!!! You have done soooo well be proud of yourself keep hearing you your amazing 😁
11 Aug 17 by member: Carmelle75
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Hey! There are people out there who can't handle the fact that there are those who want to change things they don't like about themselves. Because they can't deal with their failings it's easier for them to rubbish what you are achieving. 20lbs is an amazing loss. You can do this. You ARE doing it.
11 Aug 17 by member: Tracey2211
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That kind off man gives us all a bad name, he needs to get his head out of his a... and support you. Even with all the nasty comments and verbal diarrhoea that spills from his mouth you have continued to loose weight so treat him with the contempt he deserves and hold your head up. Very well done in the most demanding conditions lol you deserve a medal and he needs a kick in the butt.
11 Aug 17 by member: thomas rutherford
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You didn't gain, so you should be happy about that. Now pick yourself up and get back to your meal plan! @ Thomas Rutherford I agree. She needs to ignore his nasty comments and hold her head up. He needs to realize that she needs his support and stop badmouthing her about her weight loss. If he can't support her in her quest to get healthy, then he is not a very good husband.
11 Aug 17 by member: crstlgls
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