mgrill's Journal, 25 Feb 15

Sounds like you need an Easy button ;) 

Wow Sweetie!! You have your plate full! But you know what and you even said it, God only gives you what you can handle, and by the sounds of it, you are 'handling' it. Keep going, it will get better!! 

Maybe you need to hire a babysitter and have a date night. Sounds like both you and hubby could use a little relaxing time together. My husband and I can rarely manage a date night, but we have lunch together fairly regularly. It's important to have a few minutes to enjoy each other. 

All wonderful. Thank you for the support. I can see the light at the end of the tunnel...I just hope it's not the train - LOL! 

The transformation from doing a job and being a manager can be difficult to say the least. I used to call it manageritus. It takes a few months to get acclimated to the change and at times you will want to throw in the towel but stick with it and you will be able to raise to the job and see the rewards. One big change is the day to day satisfaction of a regular job done well. As a manager you have to look for the long term job satisfaction of a project or workload change when it is achieved. Don't try to do your old job in addition to the management job you will burn yourself out. I was in upper management for many years and promoted several people and at one time or another had to sit down and help them with the adjustment. Now I have all 4 children going through the management transformation. It can be hard but you have to have faith that you got the promotion because you are good at what you do and they want you to guide your department. Lzzypup68 is right, you need to set up a date night at least once a month. Keep your relationship going and not centered on work or the kids. My wife insisted on it and as a result we are still married after 43 years. The job and kids will be gone one day and you will still have each other as friends and partners.  

Oh have I been there! Right now I'm not doing well with exercise and eating, and I have to say it's easier, but I feel like crap. We all have those moments where we feel like we are giving it our all and getting no where. Your hubby will deal and like you said this will pass. Maybe your hubby could help out a little more to take some of the burden off of you at home? Or maybe he already does and it's still just overwhelming. Either way, you are working hard, still learning your job, and doing your best. Maybe take some time after the kids go to bed to just meditate on the day and just breathe in the peace and quiet. You are an amazing woman!! 

Well I can guarantee you I feel stretched out and overwhelmed at times and feel like I'm not Where I want to be Jump your bones but I can guarantee you don't listen to him Some people really do believe there a bag of chips Anyways just do your very best and that's all you can and some days it is very difficult to think positive Some days I scream and I cry After getting it out it feels better Have a blessed day Missy Sweet dreams 

Popped on here again toward the end of my day to accept a buddy request and I'm so pleasantly surprised to hear more support from you all. Thanks! You guys always give the best encouragement. 

I know how you feel. I am in the same situation. Hubby and I fight all the time. We are so stressed and over worked. Our lives have become work, kids, studies and little time to play. But like you say this too shall pass. I will just have to accept that I will have to stick it out for a few more hectic years. When my husband is done with his studies and gets that dream job, I can finally stop working and focus on the things that are really important - like peace of mind, quality family time, reading and pursuing my real passion! I am so happy you posted this. I am glad I am not the only one who feels like I am failing at everything. I have to tell myself everyday that I am doing a damn good job ... To juggle all these balls - not an easy job. So if one of them occasionally falls, pick it up. The show must go on. I am doing well and so are you. And also, I don't think I will ever have everything together. Sometimes I accept this fact and other times I hate myself for not having absolute control over my life and my feelings ... especially my feelings. But please know this ... you are not alone. And good luck.