Best of luck to you Cherie. The days are counting down to the end of the year, there will be light at the end of the tunnel, promise! I don't think there is any way to prepare for the issues you and your family have suffered and you have been an incredibly strong woman to deal with it all as you have. Take care of yourself as well as your family. It may be a year or two before things feel normal, but don't forget you have friends who care about you here.