gingrins's Journal, 30 May 19

Unfortunately, that's the way it goes with all of us who have been "morbidly obese." Don't let it discourage you. Have you decreased in clothes size? Are you able to do more things that you couldn't do before? Focus on the positive things that YOU have noticed, even if others haven't. You're not doing it for THEM, you're doing it for you. Keep up the great work! 

some people are just plain clueless, it is more important that you see the results and sooner than later someone will notice.  

You just keep doing what you’re doing and it will force them to notice. It’s not about them, it’s about you anyways. 

Wear smaller cloths, I have big blouses now that I have loss weight that still make me look fat because they are baggy. But when I wear a size smaller people seem to notice more. 

60 lbs is huge!!! Sometimes people are afraid to say something or are jealous. Add an extra bounce of confidence in your step and a little fashion flare🥰 biggest advice.... you lost 60 freaking pounds and you know you feel it and how much better you feel so own it for yourself and keep it moving ❤️❤️👏👏💪💪👏❤️👏 

When I was first losing, I think people were afraid to comment for fear of embarrassing me - like saying, "gee you were fat before...you look better." Later, they started to say I looked "healthy and fit." 

For the most part, people are resistant to change. That is both change in themselves and in others. In time, when they are comfortable with your change, they will start to comment. You are doing this for you not for them. Find peace from within and the would will discover your positive changes. Good luck on your journey! Fair winds and following seas.  

Also remember ppl who see ya nearly everyday won’t notice it for a long while. Some of them are too wrapped up in themselves anyways to care about others. Just keep up your awesomeness! 

@gingrins, It doesn't matter what others see, want to see, or are blinded from seeing...what matters is that you see and feel better about yourself !!! You shouldn't be doing this for them, your doing it for YOU !!!! Hey, we all feel defeated from time to time, but it is the getting up and doing something about it which defines who we are. Believe me when I say, I have a lot to still lose myself, and there are many days that self doubt creeps in.....but you pick yourself up, force yourself to do what you know will improve your health, and the body eventually will follow !!!!! I am here for ya, as well as so many other great persons....each cheering you toward success..... Stick to the process, constantly examine and re-evaluate your eating habits, workouts, and measurements -----<changes will come !!!!  

If it isn't noticeable to others on the outside yet, then I hope you realize that you must have lost a lot of the internal weight. The fat that was pressing on your organs, not only the fat on the surface. After 50 lbs lost, I noticed that I could breathe easier. I didn't really notice a big change in my appearance until my pants started falling off. The clothes were so baggy and frumpy and I was forced to buy something new. People really noticed the weight loss then. I think a new outfit is in order because 60 lbs is over half way to your goal and that is simply amazing.  

Gingrins—-there are two ways of looking at this. #1– the people who know you don’t just sit around and stare at you, judging your obesity. They may just see YOU. #2 in today’s world of getting fired or called on the carpet for sexual harassment for even commenting on how nice your perfume might be—- maybe they aren’t comfortable entering your personal space by commenting on your weight. 

Do it for yourself. I've been consistent and made a lot of changes in the last year yet only I notice. People at work don't see or at least don't comment on the difference. That's over a year of pure consistency with hundreds of hours of lifting weights and it's only obvious in before and after pictures. 

I know how you feel - I've lost 40 lbs and nobody noticed - or just keeping it to themselves. Don't give up tho. It's not about what others say or don't say, but how you feel - your doing great:) 

If you were very heavy to begin with, it will take a while for anybody to notice. Once you lose more they won't stop asking you. I didn't have that much to lose compared to other people (25Kg), and people started noticing around the 10Kg mark.  

You might need to change what you're wearing, I have a friend who regularly loses a big chunk of weight and I'm the only one who notices because she wears the same big baggy hide it all clothes. Buy yourself something nice and flattering and the comments will start.  

I found people were afraid to say anything because I lost so much so fast. They thought I might be sick. Once one person mentioned it and they realized it was on purpose everyone made compliments. Keep up the good work. I’m down 92lbs and have 8 to go for an even 100 in 12 months. 

Don't give up, you will make them realized one day! 

Your not doing this for everyone else right? So if people don’t notice or comment then who cares! As long as you know and your body is getting heavier then that should be enough! I understand though you want the confirmation of other noticing but really it’s amazing and you should be so proud of yourself!❤️ 

Healthier **** 

People who see you everyday or often won't notice because they saw you everyday getting a litttle smaller. Their memory is short lived when it comes to outward appearance. If someone hasn't seen you for awhile then sees you they'll notice right away but some may feel it's improper to say anything. I lost weight once and my husband never noticed and he sees me nude. My friends went on vacation together followed by us going on vacation so I didn't see them for two months. The first thing they noticed was the weight difference. When going through pictures your loved ones will notice but you notice the way you feel and your endurance so celebrate that. They'll figure it out.